..but saying YES and not doing it later might affect my trust on you negatively. I know many good people who find it to hard to say No simply because they feel it will sound rude. Saying No is very crucial at times and NO it doesn’t sound rude at all. No doesn’t always mean rejection, sometimes it means that “I am unable to do it for you for whatever reasons, and instead of wasting your time persuading me, go find someone else”, which is actually a good advice.
Maybe you really really want to do that for me, but you can’t. Say No to me, I WILL understand, or maybe you make me understand. Maybe cause you lack resources or don’t have time or are in middle of some process or are preoccupied with other work, but you still want to do it for me, but ultimately can’t. Saying No will save time and trust between both of us. Best No is the quickest No you can give to me, will save me energy and time. I would also appreciate if you could rather give me a No like, “I can’t do that for you, but you should check-out with Tom, Dick and Harry”. There you got an opportunity to help build my network, initiating a connection between two people, thereby earning some good karma, which will comeback two fold to you (one from my end, and second from the other connection).
Sometimes No is the solution, and we should use it then, but also be cautious that you are not using it for the easy way out. People are not fools. Being genuine is the key to good relationships.
